This is my journey through "physical life" as a self admitted sinner who has hurdled devastating and traumatic obstacles that have only been conquered because I've been saved by the blood of Christ and have complete trust in His Word; "Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee." ~Deuteronomy 31:6 (KJV)~ These are my writings (stories, poems, rants & rambles) composed during some of the most intimate times of my life – times of torment and struggle; times of happiness and satisfaction. I will end my "earthly journey" some day; sooner than later, which is when I will begin my "eternal life" journey. Here is where I will meet My Almighty Father; the maker of Heaven and earth. I will spend eternity in His Glorious Kingdom praising the Great I Am! But until that day is upon me, I will continue this pilgrimage battling through this brief yet very important "physical life" searching for my "earthly" purpose. Feel free to join me on my adventure… God Bless Everyone's Soul! I will pray for you all!
Today, I’d like to share a memory of my “Mam-Mam,” Ruth (Wall) Graeff with my readers .I suppose a brief introduction would be helpful in understanding why this memory is so profound in my mind. “Mam-mam” was the name given to her by her second eldest grandchild and so that is what all of the rest of us younger grandchildren learned to call her. April was the eldest grandchild, however, she called Mam-Mam “B. Mom.” I think I know where that came from but I’m really not sure, but I digress…
Mam-mam was a very loving, kind, heart-warming little old woman. She loved to sing or tell nursery rhythms, little”ditties” and bedtime stories whenever her grandchildren would spend the night at her house. I absolutely loved to spend the night at Mammy’s house as a child! The memory I’m about to share with you is about the time my Mam-Mam took me to get my hair cut. Let’s title it, “Lesson learned; haircut disaster!”
My hair is and always has been very thin. I recall how my Mam-Mam would always tell me how she preferred my hair short anytime she noticed that it was getting a bit on the long side. I was five years old when I learned a very important lesson in life simply from my Mam-Mam taking me to get my hair cut. On this particular Saturday, Mam-Mam decided to take me “uptown” to a school called Empire Beauty School to have my hair cut. Since the students performed the haircuts, the cost was much cheaper than going to an actual hair salon and getting your hair cut by a licensed hairstylist. I wasn’t given a choice in the style of how my hair was to be cut, so I graciously sat in the big chair and allowed the female student to cut my hair. Unbeknownst to me and Mam-Mam, the student chose to cut my hair, but it certainly was not a style. Upon seeing myself in the mirror when the student announced she was finished, I broke out in tears and screamed, “it looks horrible!” With that, I jumped out of the chair and ran out of the school screaming and crying the entire way.
Even though I was only five years old, my memory of what to come is very vivid. When my grandmother finally caught up to me running down the sidewalk towards home, I was still screaming and crying at the top of my lungs with huge tears flowing down my small face. I stopped and looked her in the eyes and yelled at her saying “I am so ugly now! Thanks a lot, Mam-Mam! This is all your fault, look at me!” I proceeded my terror run towards her house with the faint sound of my Mam-Mam begging me to be quiet because everyone could hear me. At that point in my five-year-old life, I didn’t care who heard me at all. I only cared about stopping in front of each store to review my reflection in the store front’s window to see if by chance some miracle was performed where what looked back at me would change. However, each window reflected the same image sparking me to launch into another burst of rage. Eventually, we made it back to her house where I sulked the entire time I waited for my mother to pick me up. When my mother arrived, being the sweet and innocent granddaughter I was, I gave my Mam-Mam a kiss and a hug, told her that I loved and forgave her for what she did to me and proceeded to walk out the front door and into my mother’s car. Could I have added any more salt to her wound?Obviously, she did nothing wrong, but there was not anyone in the world that would convince me otherwise in that phase of my maturity that if it was not for her taking me to get my hair cut, I would not be so traumatized! It seemed accurate; at the time.
It is true that the haircut was absolutely terrible. I can assure you of that 34 years later. I sincerely hope that the girl who executed such a ghastly haircut received a great amount of additional training or perhaps even chose a different profession to pursue. But what I remember most of all, beyond the haircut itself, is the expression on the face of my poor grandmother who simply was trying to do something she felt was kind and in my best interest. Her face’s expression can only be defined as that of extreme helplessness, sorrow, and guilt. I did not understand it then, but her intentions were not that of hate. How was she to know that the student was going to literally butcher my hair? There is no doubt in my mind that my Mam-Mam was more distraught over the results of my haircut than I could even begin to imagine. The life lesson learned when reflecting on this memory is that before I pass judgment on someone’s actions, I must consider their intentions of their action and their ability to change the results.